Going to the same bar and getting hit on by the same type guys definitely means at least checking out new bars. I met my wife of 40 years at a singles club that had regular outings for fun. She had no problem going topless on my sailboat.
P.S. I solved my problem by taking a science class that required a lab where I had to wear a lab coat. The shy guys got to know me wearing a lab coat and safety glasses. So now they talk to me even when they see me naked. Problem solved.
Yes, I think that might work. It reminds me of when I was an 18 yr old student, many decades ago. By some admin mix up I found myself in a Chemistry class as the only student. The lecturer was a very attractive woman, almost old enough to be my mother. I had such a crush on her, although I never said anything. I used to fantasise a lot about her walking into the lab wearing only her lab coat, then slowly unbuttoning it in front of me . . .
Goddess Almighty…put on your big girl pants (metaphorically speaking) and just TALK TO THEM. If you get rejected for whatever reason, deal with it and move on. Find someone else.
Crossing your legs may be saying “do not disturb”. Un-cross and see what happens. You are in control of the situation. If the guy that approaches is obviously after what you don’t want to give, re-cross legs. He’ll get the message.
You could try dating PN guys.
The first thing to do here is give up smoking. It’s a disgusting habit.
Going to the same bar and getting hit on by the same type guys definitely means at least checking out new bars. I met my wife of 40 years at a singles club that had regular outings for fun. She had no problem going topless on my sailboat.
P.S. I solved my problem by taking a science class that required a lab where I had to wear a lab coat. The shy guys got to know me wearing a lab coat and safety glasses. So now they talk to me even when they see me naked. Problem solved.
Yes, I think that might work. It reminds me of when I was an 18 yr old student, many decades ago. By some admin mix up I found myself in a Chemistry class as the only student. The lecturer was a very attractive woman, almost old enough to be my mother. I had such a crush on her, although I never said anything. I used to fantasise a lot about her walking into the lab wearing only her lab coat, then slowly unbuttoning it in front of me . . .
Goddess Almighty…put on your big girl pants (metaphorically speaking) and just TALK TO THEM. If you get rejected for whatever reason, deal with it and move on. Find someone else.
Crossing your legs may be saying “do not disturb”. Un-cross and see what happens. You are in control of the situation. If the guy that approaches is obviously after what you don’t want to give, re-cross legs. He’ll get the message.